Love in the time of pandemic

Many of you have written in to check up on us and offer your love and support. Thank you so so much! It means the world that you are thinking of us during this time. We’ve always appreciated your patronage, but now we appreciate and treasure your friendship as well. I am happy to report that everyone at AOS is well and healthy! We are taking current events and each other’s health very seriously. The feeling of love, support and strength from within the group is humbling and moving.

We’ve been asked how you can support and help us in this time. With things the way they are currently, sessions will be very few and far in-between (for everyone’s healthy and safety), leaving supporting ourselves a difficult problem. If you are in a position to do so, please consider donating money to AOS. We will split it between all the Artists. Every little bit helps! Please email your friendly contacts at AOS, and they can give you the Venmo or Paypal information. If you don’t have a usual contact, please email info@theartofsubmission.com. We’ll send a little thank you present back in appreciation:)

I’ve also compiled a list of what each Artist is offering right now and how you can help them. If you are able, please do send some love! It would bring a big smile to more than one face. This list will be updated as more information comes in.

Lana Harper – Offering Skype/phone/text experiences. Prepaying for future sessions and donations via Venmo, Paypal and gift cardswould be much appreciated.

Amber Amante – Offering phone/text dates and custom erotica (what a wordsmith!). Prepaying for future sessions and donations via Venmo, Paypal and cash gift cards would be much appreciated.

Emmy Lewis – Custom photos and erotica. Prepaying for future sessions and donations via Venmo, Paypal and Amazon gift cards would be much appreciated.

Danielle Blunt – Offering Skype/phone/ text dates. You can also find her on Niteflirt, visit her clipstore, or Pre-book a session. She is accepting donations to @dasyayoga on Venmo and Dasyayoga@gmail.com on Paypal. Please put “bills” in the subject.

Della Reid – Offering Skype/phone/text experiences. Prepaying for future sessions and donations via Venmo, Paypal and gift cards would be much appreciated.

Jessica – Prepaying for future sessions and donations via Venmo, Paypal and gift cards would be much appreciated.

Mandie Rae – Offering Skype/phone/text experiences and custom videos. Contribute directly to her rent fund through Cashapp $deMandieRae. Donations via Venmo, Paypal and gift cards would be much appreciated.

Eva Faye – She counts herself lucky in having a civilian job so wishes you to prioritize others more in need. What a sweetie!

Claire Belle – Offering Skype/phone/text experiences. Custom photos and video. Prepaying for future sessions and donations via Venmo, Paypal and gift cards would be much appreciated.

Margot Rose – Offering Skype/phone/text experiences. Prepaying for future sessions and donations via Venmo, Paypal and gift cards would be much appreciated.

Casey – Offering Skype/phone/text experiences. Donations via Venmo, Paypal and gift cards would be much appreciated.

Chloe – Offering phone/text dates and custom erotica and puns. Donations via Venmo, Paypal and gift cards would be much appreciated.

Miranda St-Claire – Offering Skype/phone/text experiences (single or with her hot male partner!), custom videos and photos. Donations via Venmo, Paypal and gift cards would be much appreciated.

Andrea Pearl – Offering phone/text dates and custom erotica. Donations via Venmo, Paypal and gift cards would be much appreciated.

Adriana Evans – Offering Skype/phone/text experiences and custom video. Prepaying for future sessions and donations via Google Pay (adrianaevansxxx@gmail.com) or Cashapp ($AdrianaEvanss) would be much appreciated.

Gwen Starling – Offering Skype/phone/text experiences and custom video. Frequent new content on Onlyfans (onlyfans.com/maggiemcmuffin). Prepaying for future sessions and donations via Venmo (@maggie-mcmuffin), Cashapp ($mcmuffin)and gift cards would be much appreciated.

Gia – Offering phone/text experiences. Donations via Venmo, Paypal and gift cards would be much appreciated.

And of course, emails of support are always welcome most of all! Thank you once again for your love! Can’t wait until it is safe to meet face to face again!

Be safe, be well, be happy. Love, AOS 🙂

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Featured Artist Interview: Switch Mandie Rae

Time to celebrate Fall with our newest Featured Artist! Next up is a veteran AOS advertiser – the sassy, the spirited, the singular Little Miss Mandie Rae! A kink educator, film starlet, ABDL enthusiastic and kink party host, this is one Artist that knows her stuff! (Here’s a little Behind-the Scenes-tidbit – when we, *founder of forementioned BDSM website*, don’t know something about BDSM, Mandie Rae is always to the rescue. She’s our guru too!)

Hi Mandie! I’m so sorry it’s taken such a long time to get an interview in! With your website, you were always such a bold presence on AOS. You still are! When can we expect your website back? And any new developments with it?

After Sesta/Fosta, things got a little complicated. I hope to have a newly redesigned website up in the new year, complete with a special gallery for my favorite clients.

Let’s start from the beginning and get to know you. What are your roots with BDSM?

I’ve had kinky inclinations for as far back as my memories go. I was the kid tying up and spanking her toys, playing kidnapping games, and pushing my friends to take “playing house” and “doctor” to a different level. I was obsessed with TV and movies that showed spanking, corporal punishment, or forced regression.

I found out I was kinky because my best friend and I lost our virginity around the same time. She asked me what my favorite position was, and I replied that I liked when he tied me up and spanked me. She was quiet for quite some time, so I asked what her favorite position was… She informed me that it was from behind. It was then that I realized that I had different erotic tastes than others. I went home and began doing research on kink, fetishes, and BDSM. The second I was of age, I started going to kink meetups and events.

Aha I see how this foreshadows some of your current interests. So how has your play style evolved through the years?

When I started off in the community, I thought I was purely a submissive. A bratty sub, but still a sub. The more I played and the more dynamics I tried, something about that just didn’t feel right. I felt stuck. Upon opening up more and engaging in a few group scenes, I realized that I had a penchant for teasing, sadism, and a love of being worshiped.

It turns out I am a true 50/50 switch. I don’t enjoy one more than the other. Depending on my mood, I crave to be that good girl who pleases my partner, a brat who needs to be punished, a cruel and sadistic mistress, or the sensual seductress who uses their partner for pleasure. I find that I am both a care taker and someone who loves to be doted on.

When I realized I didn’t have to be confined to one role, it freed me. I am now an unabashed hedonist. I can take on whatever role suits me at the time. Whatever feels right and good is what I am going to do.

I’ve also come to the realization that BDSM doesn’t always have to be serious business. Sometimes it can be fun to have silly scenes, or just explore with one another without expectations. Not everything needs to be whips and chains all the time.

That brings us up to the present. What are you excited about these days?

I am the master of the tie and tease. I delight in tying my partner down and using them for my own pleasure. I relish in their anticipation of what is to come, and watching the facial expressions of ecstasy and agony flash over them as I tease them to the point they are about to burst.

Playing with the idea of punishment hits all my buttons. Anything that ventures into the realm of embarrassing, humiliating, or degrading is a personal favorite. I want that rush of shame to be present. Feeling my face get flush or watching as it happens to someone else is a turn on.

I also love learning! Teaching and helping someone explore for the first time, or trying out a kink, fetish or role I haven’t before is fulfilling. Part of the reason I am a provider is because it brings me joy to have new, unique, and intimate experiences with others.

Oh! I also love group play! I especially enjoy sessions with couples. Whether I am being their play thing, sharing my knowledge with them, or we are just enjoying each others company, it feels amazing to take part in something that brings them closer together.

It’s Halloween month and costumes and role plays are the top topics! What’re your favorite role plays these days?

I really get into role playing! The props, clothing, make up, and clever scene ideas make the experience immersive. I am skillful at getting into character and setting a scene. I improvise well, and I find that these engagements are always unique. It’s cliché, but student/teacher will always be my favorite, followed by being a babysitter. I’ve been doing more medical play lately, and that’s been fun. Typically, the darker the scene idea, the better. I also do a lot of consensual non consent.

Most people know me for age play content. The power dynamic that inherently exists when interjecting age gaps is appealing to me. Age play is fun because it is versatile. It can be combined with almost any other kink or fetish. The Lolita who lures in unsuspecting men, the naughty student, the cute babygirl who wants to please daddy, the vulnerable younger party who is taken advantage of, the school yard bully, the naive one who needs to be taught.. It can go so many ways! Most have a narrow view of what AP is. AP can be role playing any age or life stage ranging from baby to geriatric, and it doesn’t always have to be the “older” person who is the Top in a scene. For instance, the Lolita who is seducing her teacher could be the dominant one during play.

Speaking of age play, you have a unique fetish… Tell us more about ABDL play.

ABDL (adult baby/diaper lover) was one of my first kinks. As a bottom, I lean more on the DL side of things. While I do enjoy being taken care of, for me it is primarily a humiliation and control thing. The most embarrassing thing I can think of is having someone else be in control of your bodily functions and being forced to regress. When I’m topping for ABDL things, I enjoy being a caregiver as well as using it as a humiliation tactic.

You are a kink educator. What would you like people to know most about BDSM?

Kink and sex education is something I am very passionate about. I got my degree in psychology specifically to learn everything I could pertaining to human sexuality. Intimacy is so important, but as a society we do not talk openly talk about it. Often having a kink or fetish makes people feel isolated, like they need to hide that part of themselves from others. I want to normalize what society thinks of as “abnormal.” You can have kinks and still be perfectly well adjusted. I want to make people feel less alone and ashamed. For this reason I am very out about my sexuality. I even have a place where people can ask me question anonymously about kink, BDSM or about me personally. You can ask me anything here: https://curiouscat.me/dammitpunk

What are your plans for the upcoming year?

I have had many jobs in the adult entertainment field. I’ve been a stripper, I actively did porn for a few years, ran a dungeon, spent some time as a cam girl and did phone sessions. Recently, I dove back into making custom video content and offering private cam shows again, and it’s been great! This year, I plan on shooting more of my own content. For custom vid and cam show inquires you can email demandierae@yahoo.com.

I’ve been doing quite a bit of bouncing back and forth between NYC, New Jersey, and Albany. I hope to have a new dungeon space in Albany soon.

I also want to focus more on kink education. I am in the process of writing a book about the dynamics and psychology of age play.

Whew! Do you have any time to relax even? What are you doing when you aren’t working?

Erm… sometimes.

When I’m not planning epic scenes or educating the masses, I watch a lot of movies. I am an avid cinema lover, primarily psychological thrillers, horror movies, and scifi/fantasy/dystopian. Netflix and chill is my go to! Nothing like cuddling up (I’m a pro cuddler) with someone in a dark room, nestled in the blankets and getting lost in a movie together. My current fave movie is Midsommar. It gave me a ton of creepy, cult like scene fantasies, haha! I also devour novels and sometimes write my own erotica.

And since Halloween is fast approaching, tell us a quick scary story!

Someone takes me out on a wonderful date. We share a delicious steak dinner. Our meal is filled with great conversation, and we make each other laugh. After, we hold hands and walk along the deserted city streets. I invite them inside for a glass of whiskey and to watch a movie. We spend the entire film cuddling, kissing, and gently touching one another. It’s clear we both want more…I pull out the restraints and suggest some kinky fun. Stunned, they inform me that they don’t try new things.

AAAAAHHHHHHH goosebumps!

Thank you so much for taking the time out of your busy schedule to chat with us this month! For more Q+A, BDSM tidbits, hot behind-the-scene photos and funny kink memes, take a peek at her Twitter @dammitpunk.

Check out her Artist profile here and email her at demandierae@protomail.com to set up a date – Netflix not included ;-)!

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New Year, New Safe Spaces!

We want to hear from you! What would be in your dream incall space? What in an incall is most important to you? What would make you feel happiest, sexiest, most comfortable and most kinky? AOS is always striving to create safe spaces to explore kink, fetish and fantasy…literally and figuratively; mentally, emotionally and physically. Email us at info@theartofsubmission.com 🙂

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Consent – It’s Simple As Tea

I was reminded of this video from a few years ago. Still holds up well! One additional thought – always good to check if your tea recipient prefers it with milk or sugar…or a slap and a spank. Not everyone enjoys tea the same way!

Now who wants to book a tea party? 😉

Copyright ©2015 Emmeline May and Blue Seat Studios

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Old Guard BDSM

I learned a lot about power through my “classical” Dominatrix training. Unfortunately, a lot of it was through watching how power was misused. I trained at a ‘world renowned, old-guard, classical BDSM training chateau’. The kind that respects protocol, leather history, and hierarchies. The kind that isolates itself from other BDSM communities, the kind of place that calls itself “the best” without meaningfully engaging in other things.

I found a formalized BDSM structure and community before I even knew what BDSM stood for. It quite literally fell into my lap and gave me language for my interest in power play. Despite the ambivalence I now hold towards my old-guard BDSM upbringing, there is a reason I was drawn to it. I get a certain sexual satisfaction on structure and rules, primarily on making them. The ability to create a world that serves you and your needs is a powerful skill to hone, and an incredibly dangerous weapon if you aren’t open to accountability when your methods harm others.

“Old-Guard” BDSM of the 1950’s takes its strict protocol and aesthetics from formalized military code and biker culture. “New-Guard” BDSM evolved out of the many social and cultural changes leading into the 1980’s. But, as with most things, it isn’t really a simple binary. Most kinksters pull from kink history and from their personal history to create something that works for them, and for many others, not a lot of thoughtfulness goes into it at all.

I recently saw a tweet by Mistrix Sade which said, “I am decidedly NOT a ‘classical’ Dominatrix. And proud of that. I am an experimental one: a modern, de-constructivist sensory artist, and power exchange practitioner. Question everything, especially the ‘old school.’” I, for one, love the idea of an experimental dominatrix, the idea that we are always growing. That we are not infallible. The last few years, I’ve been thinking of my play as that of a curious scientist. Collecting data. Doing experiments. And learning.

Kink doesn’t have to look a particular way or adhere to certain structures or language. To me, kink should be expansive. It is about exploration, connection, and finding attunement with a partner. A good scene comes from engagement, communication, and a flow of energy between the top and the bottom. A good scene comes from knowing yourself and your desires and taking the time to find a partner who has similar interests. A good scene is an act of co-creation, where both the top and the bottom are engaged, empowered to share their needs and desires, and ultimately enjoying themselves.

~ Danielle Blunt

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Featured Artist Interview: Switch Amber Amante

To kick off (and kink off) the re-start of our Featured Artist Interviews, we have an endlessly fascinating switch player and one of the newest Artists to be featured on AOS – Amber Amante! Let’s get to know her…

Amber, a huge welcome to AOS! What brought you here?
Thank you! I’m super excited to be here! I’ve been kinky in my personal life for over 8 years now, as a player, educator, and party promoter. A few months ago, AoS babe Mandie Rae suggested that I try my hand at playing professionally, and I’ve been hooked ever since!

I always love asking this question – How did you find out you were kinky?
I met this cute guy at a Halloween party, and he messaged me on AIM (AOL Instant Messenger) and asked me if I liked bondage. I had no idea what bondage was, but I said I was open to trying it after he explained what it was. I went over his house, and he tied me up with rope, and I couldn’t get enough. He would go on to introduce me to impact play and power exchange, and he eventually became the first person I ever had sex with (yes, I explored kink before I explored sex!). I got into the public kink scene in NYC 8 years ago, exclusively as a bottom, but I picked up topping once cute people with great butts started to ask me to hurt them.

I understand…butts are pretty tempting! You are a top-leaning switch now. What does that mean?
I started playing with kink as a bottom, but when I discovered topping, I fell in love with it. I still bottom in some instances and to some people, but I strongly prefer to be the person in control of the action. For me, submitting is an occasional treat whereas domination is my passion every day.

It’s often difficult to get in the mind of someone who is naturally dominant to find their submissive side, especially for new partners. So tell us, what pushes your submission buttons?
I’m really into objectification as a submissive: I want to be reduced to my usefulness. I like being given tasks or challenges to complete that will make the person dominating me happy. Maybe I’m just here to look pretty. Maybe I’m just meant to hold your drink. Maybe I’m just here to struggle and beg for your amusement.

Seems like when it’s not done well, it could be diminishing and hurtful. What tips can you give your partners to build a happy and healthy scene around you bottoming?
I think that all of my best scenes as a bottom start with a conversation about what turns me on and what makes me feel comfortable; I want to know that my partners care about me and my needs, even if the scene that we’re about to do will be more structured around their needs. I also think checking in during the scene is super helpful. Lean in, grab my hair, and growl into my ear, “Do you like that?” or “Can you take more for me?”. I’ll answer truthfully, and if I say no, you can ask me to do something else without ruining the moment. I don’t like being set up to fail. At the end of the scene, I want to know that I did a good job, and it’s really helpful when my partners tell me what they enjoyed about our scene.

You told me you are moving to Boston soon. When do you leave us?
I touch down on August 26th.

What are you excited for in Boston?
I’m most excited about meeting new people, making new friends (and getting into all sorts of trouble with those friends), and finding new dessert places! I have a wicked sweet tooth.

Do you have any fun plans for the rest of August in NYC?
The rest of August is a whirlwind of activity! I’m hosting a private kink party this weekend, going to another play party the following week, and hosting my own going away party before I move to Boston.

People new to the scene are always asking how to get into play parties. Any advice?
Yes! So much advice. If you’re between the ages of 18 and 35, check out your local TNG (that stands for The Next Generation) chapter. You can often find TNG chapters and their events on Fetlife (it’s like a kinky Facebook). TNG often has events that cater to newbies. If you’re outside of the TNG age range, I recommend joining Fetlife and searching for munches in your area. A munch is a low pressure meet-up at a restaurant where folks who are kinky (or curious about kink) can come together and chat with likeminded people. Munches are great because there’s no pressure to play because you’re in a restaurant; you really *shouldn’t* be playing there. Munches allow you to meet people who are new as well as people who are more experienced, and you can usually ask the more experienced folks what parties they recommend, and then you can get a sense of specific play parties before actually checking them out. Once you’ve heard about a play party that sounds appealing to you, you can find the entry requirements (some parties want you to register online, some parties want to get a sense of your experience with kinky spaces, some parties want you to come with a buddy, etc.) and go, go, go!

You mentioned that you are a kink educator. What topics are you especially passionate about sharing?
Sure thing! I teach sex education and fetish classes on a variety of topics, but my favorite subjects to teach are co-topping (two Dommes, 1 sub), fisting, urethral insertions, deepthroating, and strap-on play.

What’s on your kink agenda? Any scenes in the works that you are excited about?
Yes! I’m getting the chance to reconnect with one of my favorite playmates this month; she really lets me take her to dark places. I love using this altitude training mask on her; it allows me to restrict the amount of air she can take in without having to use one (or both) of my hands to cover her nose and mouth, which means I can beat her and throw her around without having to worry about her breathing more than I want her to. We also tend to do a lot of fear play: I threaten her with things that terrify her, like cattle prods and stun guns, and I delight in her (futile) attempts to flee.

In your profile, you list “fear play” as a like for Domming. Can you tell us more about that? What can a potential new partner except from you in this realm?
Just reading this question made me hungry for fear haha. For me, fear play refers to scenes in which someone allows me to play with the things that scare them. It’s very individualized because one person’s fears and phobias aren’t necessarily the same as the next person’s. When someone is interested in exploring fear play with me, I ask them what scares them (common answers include pain, electricity, being unable to breathe, and needles) and then I ask them how much I can force them to confront their fear. For example, I have a play partner who is terrified of needles. He wouldn’t let me pierce him, but he would let me hold an uncapped needle against his skin. I would get on top of him and pin him down, and hold the needle against his chest and tell him that he should be careful about struggling…he might prick himself. It was a great predicament because he was so terrified of needles that his thoughts would be consumed with getting away, but he also desperately didn’t want to get stuck by accident either.

Diabolical! That sounds like it can get pretty intense. How do you balance that out in a scene?
I’m here for visceral reactions and vulnerability. I don’t want it to feel real; I want it to BE real. Real pain, real fear, real catharsis, real laughter, real joy. Kink and BDSM offers unique opportunities for deep connection and vulnerability, and I want to take full advantage of those.

I also hear you have a particular adoration for GS play, both giving and receiving. Tell us more!
My earliest memory is of being potty trained; I remember turning around, picking up the potty and drinking from it. These days, I’m a bit more selective about drinking piss, but I adore playing with it. I love the sound of a strong stream of piss hitting a toilet or the ground or a person. I love feeling its warmth hit my skin. I love that groan of release that someone makes when they finally relieve themselves after holding it in for a while. I love covering my partners in my pee, marking them as mine in that moment. I love forcing someone to drink several bottles of water and then making them beg me to pee. I love peeing in fancy glassware and forcing someone to drink it. If I’m feeling especially mean, I’ll put it in the fridge before making them taste it. I could go on and on about this, but the “too long, didn’t read” version is that I have a lifelong love affair with watersports.

I’m sure that’s an affair other people would love to partake in! (GS lovers, take note!)
Tell us more about your hobbies outside of kink play. What do you enjoy doing in your time away from kink?

One of them is pretty obvious from my pictures: body modification. I love tattoos and piercings of all sorts, and I’m hoping to have most of my body tattooed. I’m also looking into getting a cutting/flesh removal at some point, but I haven’t decided on the design or the location just yet. In addition to putting art on my physical canvas, I’m really into making (musical) art. I’m a classically-trained musician; I’ve been playing the clarinet for 10 years now. Each year, I get a season subscription to the NY Philharmonic because listening to classical music performed live sends chills up and down my spine. On a less artistic note, I love playing the Sims (The Sims 3 is the best iteration of the game; I will fight you on that)! Maybe it’s just an extension of my desire to control people, but I love creating storylines and playing out the lives of simulated humans.

Now that’s a fun idea for a scene! A Sims Domme…haha! Have you ever thought about orchestrating and controlling a group of people just like Sims…like, dungeon Sims?
I’ve never thought about that before, but it could be hot! I like the idea of turning down the “Free Will” function on people haha (for those of you who don’t play the Sims, the amount of free will the simulation humans have is adjustable based on the player’s preferences). It seems like it might be hard in real life though because I use the pause button pretty aggressively while playing the game; it’s hard to pause people in real life!

Sign me up to be a Sims slave! 😉

Let’s conclude on that high note! Amber, we are so excited to get to know you. I hope NYC can show you a good dose of kinkiness before you leave us for Boston! And New Englanders, please welcome her with sweets and gifts of your fear and tears. We know she’ll relish both!

Check out her Artist profile here and email her at meetamberamante@gmail.com to set up an unforgettable scene!

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Hello! Remember us?

It’s been a rollercoaster of a past year. No doubt you’ve read about the recent changes in legislation due to SESTA/FOSTA. It’s been a scary ride (not the fun thrilling scary, the fearing-for-your life kind of scary). It’s been a disillusioning time as well, sometimes turning provider again provider, destroying our safety and screening measures, turning us against our tech, and leaving us floundering in a toxic environment. It made us here at AOS and AOD wonder if and how to keep going on doing what we love. Shutting down was a very real and wise option. As always, we keep the safety of our Artists and clients first and foremost in mind – we would never want to endanger anyone after the trust and faith you’ve placed in us. However, amid this chaotic time, we also found support and love in so many wonderful clients, providers, friends and within the kink community surrounding us. It made us want to keep going – to keep on making space connecting kink providers with those who crave our services. So we learned, adjusted and fought. We are now smarter, stronger, more resilient and more passionate than ever!

This is a good time to re-examine and refocus our mission statement:

AOS is your virtual kink boudoir. We are passionate providers who share an interest in kink and BDSM and have shaped this area of play into an art form. The Artists featured on this site are strong talented women who embrace their sexuality by exploring the tantalizing world of power exchange and want to share this passion with you. We are educators, healers, advocates, students, teachers, partners and lovers. We strive to create a safe space to explore your deepest fantasies, with experts who will make it a comfortable, fun and effortless experience. We believe in inclusivity, diversity and positivity (but most importantly – safety) for a fun time for all!

So! After all this time off, we are back in full-throttle kink action! What do you, our kinky reader, want to hear about in our Blog section? Kink tips? Updates about our Artists? Kink in the news? Q&A? We’ll certainly bring all that back and more! But we also want to know what to add that YOU find interesting! Email us at info@theartofsubmission.com – we’ve missed you and would love to hear from you!

To our long time, loyal and faithful clients, a huge THANK YOU for standing by us! To our new clients – thank you for placing your trust and fantasies in us! To all you lurkers – what’re you waiting for??? Go book these amazing ladies! You won’t regret it 😊

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Featured Artist Interview: Switch Margot!

In this installment of AOS Featured Artist Interviews, we learn about the wonderfully free-spirited, adventurous and FUN Switch Margot! Join us as we discuss the intersections of BDSM, art and education!

Hi Margot! I heard that you just celebrated your 5 year anniversary of living in New York City! How does it feel?

Thriving in this city feels like one of my greatest accomplishments. I get to do what I’m most passionate about every day, which is to make kinky art!! When I’m not using my creative talents in session, I’m drawing, journaling, writing blog posts, planning photo shoots for work or participating in events to help further education in BDSM and sexuality. I have a wonderful community of people who support me, and I love it when I have the opportunity to use my skills and experience to give back.

You are an incredible artist! Your work is very provocative. Can you tell us more about it?

Sure!! I’m very proud of my erotic illustrations, and I’ve been using porn as a source of material and inspiration for my art since college. Growing up, I believed that porn was scary or gross, or just something that I wasn’t supposed to like because I’m a girl, but collecting and drawing hardcore images helped me come to terms with my own desires. Women who performed submissive roles, whose bodies were bound or subjugated in some way, appeared to me to be the most powerful. I created performance pieces and installations that allowed me to explore kinky subject matter and cultivate my budding exhibitionism. This stuff transformed into the career that fulfills and sustains me now

Have you always been kinky? Or did you develop your taste for BDSM after moving to the NYC?

I suppose that the potential to be kinky was inside me all along. As a kid, I played adventure games that involved being captured and tied up, or surviving alone in the wilderness. I loved to play dogs, and my close friends and I had our own little pack. When I got older, I had a perfectionist streak, and pursued AP academics and endurance sports such as cross country, which anyone can tell you is masochistic.

My hunger for experience and sensation only grew as I became aware of socially constructed power dynamics. I explored it in as many ways and with as many individuals as I could, analyzing it in my art, but never really connecting the concept of BDSM to it. So, yes, I was kinky, but I just didn’t know it.

I always tell people that you are the most perverted person I know (please take that as a compliment)! What drives your avant-garde interest in BDSM?

Something that really resonates with me is Julia Kristeva’s theory of abjection, which states that people react in horror to that which threatens to break down the boundary between ourselves and the other. BDSM is like constantly finding that boundary, and it’s the most intimate experience that I can have with myself or with someone else. Finding your limits and accepting them or having someone else accept them feels extremely vulnerable.

I guess another way to put it is that I like to surprise and shock other people just as much as I like to surprise and shock myself.

It sounds like kink has always been a part of your identity. How has realizing that affected your lifestyle?

Realizing that I wasn’t alone and seeking out a community of kinky, sex positive people, changed my life. Even though the subject of my sexuality fueled my art and allowed me to express myself, I still felt like an outsider. When a community exists, so do expectations: mutual respect, open communication, and consent. I truly value my early experiences, but I also see how my desires as a submissive to give up control and to receive degradation lead to hurtful relationships when the context of BDSM was absent.

Actively choosing to be submissive is so much more powerful than passively accepting social norm. The structure of BDSM allows for a lot of flexibility to suit the individuals that practice it, and it also asks those individuals to be self reflexive. It can be cathartic, but it’s not therapy, and, in the end, it’s supposed to be fun!!

How has understanding BDSM affected your art?

Understanding BDSM peaked my interest in learning the skills I needed to be a capable player, and in pursuing a career as a pro switch. I consider my sessions to be my performance art tailored to an audience of one, and the content that I produce on social media to be part of my character’s story. My art and life really intersect through Margot.

What is the most fun that you’ve had recently?

I got gangbanged for my birthday. That was fun!! Organizing the whole thing was quite a feat, too. I helped create the initial invitation, outline my expectations and hard limits, and decide on the date and location, but I wanted the participants to be a surprise. I wore a hood the entire time, and I was tied up, held down, tossed around. It was everything that I could have hoped for. My friends recorded it and edited it into a feature film with a killer soundtrack. The sense of camaraderie during the scene and the screening was so heartwarming.

[Dear readers, this was a personal scene and not available for booking. And also, no, you cannot watch the film – Margot is a delightful open book, but some things must be kept mysterious! 😉 ]

So where are you now? What are you into these days, and how would you describe your kink orientation?

I’m a switch, leaning a shade more submissive than dominant, more bottom than Top. Call me greedy, but l like to receive direction and sensation alike. I love pushing my partners’ buttons and exploring their interests while they explore the depths of mine.

Perhaps a good way to describe my submission would be to say that I strive to be the receptive vessel to my partner’s confidence. Confidence and Dominance really go hand in hand, and it’s catnip to a kinkster like me. Even as a Dominant, I can’t feel a spark between myself and a submissive with zero sense of self worth. Power exchange is my biggest fetish, and both parties need to bring some kindling to the table if anything is to catch fire.

The beauty of power exchange is that you don’t need a BDSM scene to feel its presence. It can be expressed very simply in the playful give and take of a thoughtful conversation. It can be expressed in flirtatious requests and suggestions and subtle acts of service.

What advice do you have for Switches, newbie or experienced players?

The second Satanic Statement in LaVey’s Satanic Bible states: “Satan represents vital existence, instead of spiritual pipe dreams!” Replace ‘Satan’ with switching, and you’ve got my kind of mantra! I’m a big fan of distinguishing between submissive, bottom, Domme and Top. They are four distinct roles, and switches especially should embrace fluidity as they search for their pleasure.

In regards to pleasure, also keep in mind that there will be certain things you try that just don’t feel good at all. It’s important to keep an open mind, and to be ok with feeling silly or unsexy. There will be times that something doesn’t feel or have the effect that you thought it was. Hold true to your hard limits, never push yourself to the point of injury (physical or otherwise), but know that it takes time for new sensations and experiences to process. Some things become erotic in the moment, and other things will take more reflection, a different setting, or a different partner.

Thank you for sharing the story of Margot! You have and always will be one of my favorite people. Whether we are talking about art, kink, working out, or which brand of flogger to stock for the dungeon, you always bring a fresh perspective. Your unique take on the world and breath-of-fresh-air candor make you a true Original. Keep on being you because we love you!

To book Margot, check out her Artist profile!

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New Film Explores Wonder Woman’s Origins In BDSM And Feminist Kink

Wonder Woman is one of DC Comic’s most iconic heroes. She’s more popular than ever after the record-smashing success of this year’s Wonder Woman movie. But not many people know about the character’s origins in BDSM and kink.

A new film by director Angela Robinson, Professor Marston and the Wonder Women, hopes to change that… ”

link: http://www.konbini.com/us/entertainment/angela-robinson-profesor-marston-wonder-woman-origins/?utm_expid=.xpRCXwEGQiqQS9OB8MU5Tg.0&utm_referrer=

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